What’s even more important than a hot position in bed? A steady beat, baby! Learn the sex tempo techniques that will have you hitting a high note every time.
Whether your partner is a brand-new mate or so familiar you could sketch his nether regions from memory, you want to establish one crucial thing during sex; a flow that can get you both off. Research shows that rhythmic stimulation – aka hitting the same spots at a consistent speed and pace – can heighten your senses and focus during the deed. You know that trancelike state you fall into while dancing or doing yoga? Like that. Except, in this case, it is totally erotic and can culminate in your biggest climax yet. Grab your guy and start perfecting your sexual timing with these expert pointers.
Sync Your Libidos
To find bedroom synchronicity, you’ll first have to choose a good time. For men, testosterone builds up overnight – which is why they’re usually all about A.M sex. Women’s hormones, on the other hand, fluctuate within our menstrual cycles.
On the days you’re ovulating, estrogen and testosterone are at peak levels, fueling your desire and down-there lubrication, that’s the optimal time to be on the same libidinous page as your man. At other moments, compromise is key. Try having sex on a stroll-in-late-to-work weekday morning when you have the energy to put something besides a bagel inside you. Do it after work on the next day and set the scene once you get home. A little flirting also goes a long way. Over time, such small, suggestive moves can help line up your sex drives.
March Your Breathing
Focusing on your breath keeps you connected to and in control of your body. In the same way, slotting in your airflow pattern with your dude’s can help you naturally adjust the pace of your romps. Start in tight position, where you can easily coordinate breaths, then have him thrust to the speed of your inhales and exhales. If he breaks that pace and starts wildly jack hammering, reach back and grab his hips to direct him. Staying in stride is the trick to crossing the finish line at the same time. Need an assist? Stimulate your clitoris to the same beat. You can get in cowgirl and touch yourself as your man moves inside you.
Add More Rhythm
Picture pushing someone on a swing for a long time. After a while, the movement becomes so automatic, you kinda lose your sense of awareness and just focus on the push-push-push right? Well, the same repeated back-and-forth during sex is what leads to that trancelike state that moves all other thoughts out of your mind, making it easier to orgasm. Listening to music can help you nail this swing method because you can time your thrusts to the beat. Research also reported that the rhythm of a sexy song can help keep your mind in the moment. Furthermore, music helps you connect with your emotions during sex.